The School Of Life

Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss. Because it is a reflection of what we love, it can feel all-encompassing. Grief is not limited to the loss of people, but when it follows the loss of a loved one, it may be compounded by feelings of guilt and confusion, especially if the relationship was a difficult one.

Because grief obeys its own trajectory, there is no timetable for feelings of pain after loss; nor is it possible to avoid suffering altogether. In fact, attempts to suppress or deny grief are just as likely to prolong the process, while also demanding additional emotional effort.

For some people, grief is a short-term phenomenon, also known as acute grief, although the pain may return unexpectedly at a later time. But other individuals may experience prolonged grief, also known as complicated grief, lasting months or years. Without help and support, such grief can lead to isolation and loneliness.


  • Focus on specific areas in your life where coping is difficult
  • Identify strategies and behaviours to help you cope and re-engage in daily tasks
  • Accept your loss
  • Find comfort in positive memories without being overcome by a sense of loss
  • Work through the process of grieving by allowing a safe environment to work through feelings of loss
  • Understand the normal stages of grief and recognize that the feelings you are experiencing are natural